Monday, 29 August 2016

3 Fears I Need To Work On

Hey my lovelies! 

So I've had 3 weeks off blogging and I thought it was time to make an appearance again (this is also an unplanned post). I've had some time to reflect on how I've been feeling and what's been causing me to feel like that an I've sussed it. I now just need to figure out a away how I can cope with all these emotions before I explode and stop worrying about stuff before it's even happened. I need to just chill the fuck out basically. So I saw a lovely girl called Kate create a post '5 Fears I Need To Work On' and I thought why not create my own version? This would be perfect for me right now and I've learnt by writing things down it really helps me. This post is purely for me but I hope you enjoy reading it. 

Before I start another blog post that has helped me MILLIONS recently is 'Things to Tell Yourself When You Overthink Everything' If you're a big over thinker like I am then you need to check this out. 

RIGHT. I'll get on with it then 

Fear of everyone leaving me
Now this may sound silly to some people but throughout my life people have left me willingly. I think it may have something to do with my dad because he's not around anymore. I'm moving out in a couple of weeks and for some reason it's like as if I've got in my head that my mums not going to be around anymore and I have to do everything all by my self with no support. I know it's silly but I can't help worrying. 

Fear of people not liking me 
I don't know what it is but I just want people to like me. I'm not a horrible person I've been described as caring and that I have a loving heart, I wouldn't go out of my way to upset anyone or hurt them, that's just not my thing. But you know them people that treat you like shit and walk all over you and decide they don't like you because you're an 'easy target' yeah. 

Fear of change 
This is the biggest one I need to work on asap. I've got some big changes in my life happening right now and I'm finding it so hard to accept this, it's out of my comfort zone. The change of moving away and going to University is supposed to be a positive thing but my brain is making it a negative thing and I'm feeling all kinds of things and acting in all kinds of different ways. Like I said before I just need to chill out and stop worrying. 

What fears do you need to work on?

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Friday, 26 August 2016

Self Care Tips

One of the most talked about topics as of late has been self-love. Everyone is preaching about it, and there are blog posts, YouTube videos, and articles flying left, right, and centre. So, what exactly is self-love, and why are we all going stark-raving mad over it? Well, that's what you're going to find out about today!

I'm going to be sharing 5 of my top tips with you in the hope that you will feel more educated, and also more positive about yourself, and who you are from now on. I mean, that's what we all want in an ideal world, right?

We all deserve a lil self-loving, but it's so incredibly hard to actually give it to ourselves. We often put others first, and we completely neglect our own needs, because we feel as though people would label as us 'selfish', or 'vain', when that isn't the case at all. We are 100% entitled to looking after our minds, and our bodies, because if we don't, then who else will? You only live once (yep, I'm afraid I'm using that well-known phrase that most people now hate - oops!), so you might as well make the most of it whilst you have the chance!

1. Have a pamper evening - Nothing screams me time more than a good ol' pamper evening. I'm a sucker for them myself, and it's now nearing towards the Autumn/Winter months, it makes perfect sense that you treat yourself once a week. Of course, you can have a pamper evening as often, or as sporadically as you want, but I would suggest having one at the end of every week, just to reflect, and then wind down, ready for a weekend away from school, college, or work! Ahh, I can almost feel the relaxation already. There are many different ways that you can choose to have a pamper evening, but I know that I've got a personal favourite that works, and so that's what I'm going to be sharing with you! I think I'm going to start having one every Friday night once school starts properly again (ugh, I can almost feel all the groans coming from behind the screen), just so that I can switch off, and forget about the week that has just passed. It also gives you something to look forward to, so it could work as a sort of motivational technique - who knows? The closer we get towards Autumn, and Winter, the colder the weather starts to get, which can only mean one thing - bath time! Finally, it's going to be socially acceptable for me to start having regular baths again. I honestly can't wait. Lush just keeps on calling my name recently, and I can definitely feel a splurge coming along. When I run my bath, I like to make sure it's either a really nice colour, or as bubbly as it can possibly be. Lush do all sorts of different oils, bath bombs, and bubble bars, so I'm sure you will be able to find just the one for you. I like to go for the calming scents when I'm having a pamper evening, so anything with lavender, or essential oils will do just fine for me. I then like to have a read, scroll through my phone, or just simply lay there, and soak (see what I did there?) in the atmosphere. You could light yourself some candles, and put them to the side, read a girly magazine, listen to some spa music, or simply just practise some breathing techniques. I then like to use a facemask, shave my legs, wash my body, and do all those sorts of things until I want to get out. I then usually have a hot chocolate with cream, and marshmallows, and some cookies, get into bed, watch some telly, read blogs, or do something else, and just chill in bed. Of course, I light a candle, and put my fairy lights on, but that's just obvious, right? Your pamper evening is your excuse to do whatever you want, and take time to focus on you. Maybe it would be a good idea to step away from social media during that time. You should practise some mindfulness instead, by using either the Calm, or the Headspace app. I'm sure you will begin to notice a considerable difference!

2. Focus on the positives about yourself - It's far too often that we talk, and think negatively about ourselves as individuals. We are our worst critics, but if we don't make a conscious effort to change that, then it will always remain that way. It's important to think about the things that make us who we are, and the things that make us unique, whether they're physical, or in terms of our personality. Sticking up post-note reminders around your mirror, or in a place that you will see them regularly may really help them to stay in your brain, and then you will be able to think about them much more often, so eventually, the negative thoughts won't seem as overwhelming, or obvious. Maybe you have beautiful, big eyes that you always get complimented on? What about your sense of humour, and how you have the ability to make everyone in the room laugh at any given moment? You could have a really kind, generous heart to the point where you are always there for your friends, and family, if ever they need you. Think about it. I want you to write down at least 6 things on some post-it notes. 6 is your minimum amount, but hopefully you can think of even more!

3. Write things down - It may sound quite pointless, but writing things down really can help you so much if you're struggling with practising self-love. Write down your thoughts, and feelings in a private place. For those of you who keep a diary, this may be easier for you, but even if you don't, you can just make notes on your phone, or on your laptop! You can be as honest as you want without anybody else knowing, and that's the beauty of it. If you're having a bad day, write about it. You can always delete it, or burn the paper afterwards. It may help you to rationalise your thoughts, and then you will begin to realise what's bothering you, and you can work out ways to target them. Write down what's bothering you, and then also try to come up with a solution, if you can. You never know, it could become a regular thing, and before you know it, you might start keeping a diary if this tip works out!

4. Take care of your body - As I mentioned in the introduction, we often neglect our bodies, because we are too busy putting others first, and taking care of them, rather than ourselves. We only get one body - that's a given. However, we have the choice to look after it, and nourish it, or take no notice of it, and neglect it. I know that I'd rather look after my body, and nourish it, so that's exactly what I'm going to try, and do from now on. Rather than picking up that chocolate bar, because it's right in front of you, take some time out of your day to prepare yourself a fresh fruit salad. Instead of eating pancakes with chocolate spread, lemon, and sugar on them, and then downing a chocolate milkshake (please don't judge me), why don't you opt for a bowl of fruit, and yogurt with a glass of milk, or water instead? That's what I'm doing. It's all about making a conscious effort to improve things for the better. It's your body, and it's your job to look after it, and treat it well. It needs to last you a lifetime! Try getting out some more. The fresh air will do you good, and you will be getting exercise too. I know I sound so cliché right now, but it's so important, and so true. Keep hydrated, and make the right decisions by putting nutritious goods into your body. Have unhealthy foods in moderation, but don't overdo it, and don't have smaller portions of healthy foods. That's never a good thing!

5. Set small goals each day to achieve the things that you want - This is honestly such a key thing to do. If you ever want to get anywhere in life, then you have to start small, with the basics. It's all about those baby steps, otherwise you will end up leaping too far, and getting no-where. For example, if you want to own your own café one day, then you have to start off at home. Try baking the most simple of recipes, and then try them in bigger proportions, then for your friends, and family, then more complex ideas, and so on. As you make progress, and develop, then you will be able to work your way up, and you will feel self-love as a result of all the effort, and hard work. Feeling pride is such an amazing thing, and if you set yourself small goals each day, then you will be able to feel that pride much more often, and the results will be visible!

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Wednesday, 24 August 2016

Dublin Photo Diary

My name is Róisín (pronounced Row-ShIan) but you can call me Ró (Row). I am a 17 year old lifestyle and beauty Blogger who lives in an island called Ireland. My blog is

Last week, I was in Dublin for a few days (you may have known if you follow me on Snapchat totally_ro). I love the city life, especially being able to walk to different places to the shop, bus etc. etc.. Here are a few photos from my stay in Dublin.

I love the Botanic Gardens, I haven't been there in a 4 years. It is such a wonderful place to walk around and it you're like me, someone who loves taking photos, there are a lot of amazing photo opportunities there, as you can see from all the photos.

This is the place to go this year because of the commemorations of 1916, the most famous Irish rebellion. I am not a history nerd but I loved how we were told about the history of the prison and how if you had money and power prison wasn't that bad as you could pay your way out of it. The prison itself was eery and interesting.

Can you tell I like weird poses?

This musical was amazing, hilarious and way better than the movie. The costumes, props, staging and actors were all incredible. I loved the music but I hadn't heard of it before.


Since we had brought 2 dogs with us (my own dog Buster and my cousin's dog Ruby), we had to walk them every day. One of the days we went to Marley Park, it is this huge park beside the motorway. I was surprised to see a little forest in the middles of it.

Since I was only a 5 minute walk from the cinema, I decided to go twice. I am a huge child at heart and I ended up going to see Finding Dory and The BFG, I loved both of them but I enjoyed Finding Dory a little more.

I had a wonderful and relaxing time in Dublin.

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Friday, 19 August 2016

How To Cope On A Bad Day

We all have bad days.
Every single one of us has been caught beneath that charcoal-toned cloud, hopelessly following us around, creating a glass-half-empty attitude in which we find the smallest, most normal actions sending us into a whirl of annoyance and frustration that no amount of motivational quotes can drag us out from.  Some of us experience light drizzle, others find themselves drenched in the downpour.
But here’s something we all need to remember, and something I often try to remind myself: Even in our darkest hours: although the clouds may be blocking the sun, the sun still exists, and it WILL come out again.
There are endless reasons and components to someone struggling; from something as typical as ‘waking up on the wrong side of the bed’ to more serious cases of anxiety and depression, and when you feel like that the last thing you need is someone telling you how to be happy! So, I’m not here to tell you how to be happy… I am here to share some tips and tricks that have helped me, and I hope that in some way, they can help you too.

1. Headphones & Long Walks
When you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, more often than not the only thing you want to do is just lay in bed, put the covers over your head and stay there, just praying that the feeling will go away in time. It’s so easy to tell someone to get up and do something proactive if you don’t understand how they’re feeling, but if you can muster up the energy you can change your whole outlook. The best thing you can possibly do is motivate yourself to get up, get dressed, grab a bottle of water, throw in my headphones and take some time out in the fresh air. Science shows that you really should stop and smell the roses, as the many scents from surrounding flowers and trees can decrease stress and promote relaxation.
Pick yourself a good song, one that uplifts you, even if for only three minutes. My bad day song is ‘Send Me on my Way’ by Rusted Root, always a winner!

2. Pen to Paper
For years and years I kept a diary, I found it the most effective way of releasing all of my thoughts and fears, without having to worry about what people would think or say. If you don’t want to talk to anyone about your problems, then it’s a really positive alternative to bottling things up. Sometimes, you’ll find yourself writing pages and pages, just to look at it, tear it up and dispose of it. This is fine! The most important thing is that you’ve addressed some of the issues that have been bringing you down.

3. Digital Detox
It’s a fairly common routine nowadays to wake up, grab your phone and scroll through social media. For some people, it’s an imperative start to their day, part of my job involves being highly active on social media, so the first thing I do is check what is going on in the world of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. However, I don’t know about you, but too often I find myself fixated on the lives of other people, comparing myself to others and beating myself up about my lack of success, money and ability to draw on the perfect eyebrows.
Social media is a fantastic hub, there’s no denying that, but sometimes we just need to take a little break. A bad day can be dramatically improved just by putting our heads out the window and experiencing the real world.

4. Long Hugs & Friends
We all have that one person that we go to in a crisis, whether it’s a family member or a best friend. Sometimes, all we need is a big cup of tea, a long cuddle and someone to tell us that they are there for us, and are listening. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a wonderful way of increasing your own positivity and making that half-empty glass just the tiniest bit fuller. There are so many clichés about a problem shared being a problem halved, but it is true. Talking is so important. 

5. Be Kind to Yourself
It’s so easy to say isn’t it? ‘Be kind to yourself’. But how can you, when it feels like your whole world is tumbling down and you’re blaming yourself for its collapse?  Well, you can start by stopping beating yourself up! Start by making a small difference, whether your accomplishments at the moment come in the form of tidying your desk at work, or just managing to get dressed, every achievement is noteworthy. Listen to people when they try and lend you support, even if you don’t want to hear it, you deserve to hear kind words. Most importantly, remember back to a time you felt like this before, and then remember back to a time when you felt amazingly happy – you managed to get yourself into that position before, believe in yourself that you can do it again, even if it only means, for now, popping up an umbrella and letting it catch some of that rain.

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Wednesday, 17 August 2016

If I Could Only Use 10 Products

Like most girls my makeup collection is a little out of control and I never wait for products to finish before buying new ones. Most days there’s the internal debate over which primer to use, or which eyeliner is right for today. But what if you could only use 10 products and the rest of your collection vanished? Here are the ten I’d pick

Too Faced Hangover Primer- I only discovered this a month or so ago but it’s such a fantastic formula which feels like part moisturiser and part primer. Without a silicone base like most primers this creamy formula helps hydrate my skin before applying my foundation.

Estee Lauder Double Wear Foundation- This is my go to foundation for long days or nights out because it’s staying power is second to none. I don’t find it as heavy a formula as some people say but the coverage is spot on and helps with all my imperfections and the redness I get around my nose.

Urban Decay Naked Concealer- It took a lot to beat the NYX Hd Concealer, and then the Nars creamy concealer but the urban decay naked concealer took the top spot with ease. The colour is spot on for my complexion and it’s light enough to blend over spots and imperfections but heavy enough to conceal my under eye circles.

Morphe 35T Taupe Palette- It’s hard to choose just one palette and this might not be the one I reach for most often but it has the most wearable shades. With so many choices housed in the large black case complete with a mixture of matte and shimmer shades, they’re all pigmented and with loads of taupe’s, browns and neutrals I could last a long time with this palette.

Kat Von D Tattoo Eyeliner in Trooper- Eyeliner is probably one of my most used products and having tried so many I always come back to the Kat Von D Tattoo eyeliner. It is the blackest of black, it is a felt tip end which is super easy and precise to draw on, and it’s lasting power is amazing. I’ve been scuba diving and swimming and had it stay intact.

Tarte Tartiest Mascara- This is a very recent addition to my makeup collection and I have to admit I’m a little fickle with my mascara but the tiny wand was what drew me in with the new tarte release. I find a brush like this is so much easier to get into the tiny lashes in the corner and it adds a good volume to my lashes.

Hourglass Mood Exposure Blush- They might be a little pricy for a blusher but my god is it worth it. The colour is beautiful, each swipe with the brush is really pigmented, it doesn’t look cakey or thick when applied and it lasts for hours. There’s no way any blush can come close to this.

Becca Opal Highlighter- Everyone might rave about champagne pop and it is a beautiful colour but the opal version has a slight gold tinge. All of the Becca highlighters have a great shimmer and this one just sparkles enough without making it look like I’ve gone for a swim in a pool of glitter.

Anastasia Beverly Hills Liquid Lipstick in Dusty Rose- The Anastasia liquid lipsticks are probably my favourite formula out of all of the ones I’ve tried as they aren’t heavy or drying on the lips and dusty rose is a pinky mauve which is beautiful. It’s a bright enough colour to wear on a night out without being too much to wear during the day.

Kat Von D Liquid Lipstick in Lolita 2- The Kat Von D liquid lipsticks are a very close second in formula for me (they’re a bit thicker than Anastasia) but the shade Lolita 2 is my go to everyday wear. It’s a dark nude with a browny tone and it is beautiful. Despite being pretty pale it doesn’t wash me out and it’s amazing enough to last a full day at work.

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Friday, 12 August 2016

5 Tips For Happy Hair

I love my hair and I suspect a lot of people out there love theirs as well. I feel like my hair is my ultimate accessory because I can do what ever I want with it. To me, your hair can make or break an outfit at times, I just love that it's so versatile, there are so many styles out there in the world, everyone is unique! One thing I think a lot of people have in common though is that they like their hair to be in the best condition it can be! I know I do. When I was younger and didn't know much about hair, I really didn't understand all the different types products there was in the big wide world or what they can do for your hair. By no means am I an expert in this field, but I like to think that I know what I'm talking about when it comes to hair care as I have made it my mission to study it as much as possible. Why? Because my hair was ruined, in a brittle, straw like state. I neglected my hair, I didn't treat it right at all and it took me a long time to get my hair healthy and happy again.

Now that I have happy hair, I wanted to share some tips with others on how to help your hair look and feel it's best, so here are some tips to help your hair stay healthy.

Make your own hair mask

The thing I love about making my own hair mask is that I get to choose what goes into it. My favourite oils to use in my DIY hair mask are; 
Argan oil - It is amazing for your hair!! It's acts as a natural heat protector and has very nutritional qualities for intensive repair.
Jojoba Oil - This oil is so close to the natural sebum that your scalp will produce so it is amazing in what it can do to your hair!
Coconut Oil - This stuff is amazing for balancing out your hair helping it regain its happy, health state. It is also said that it's great for hair growth!

Don't use a lot of heat

I feel like this one goes without saying if I'm honest. Using heat on your hair is so damaging! I have not cut it back to only blow drying my hair after washing it IF I'm going out anywhere and I will hardly use straighteners now. At first my hair was a wild mess because I wasn't straightening it as much but it soon calmed down and I hardly ever need to use them. It's not so much that using heat on your hair is a no no, it's more of a, "You should only do it if you really need to" kind of thing.

Wash your hair less

So this sounds a little gross huh? but let me just explain, Washing your hair every day or even every second day can mean that you are washing away well needed sebum to help your scalp stay healthy and if you wash it to frequently your glands will try to counteract this by over producing which can clog them and it will become an overload. I personally wash my hair twice a week which might sound a bit too extreme to some but believe me, my hair has never looked better and it's grown at such a speedy pace!

Get it cut regularly

Getting your hair trimmed or full on cut regularly really helps it to grow healthier because it eliminates the dead/split ends. When you leave split ends for too long it starts to make it's way up your hair shaft making it look like your isn't growing and it starts to look worse, so even just a trim will really help your hair!

Try the "No poo" method

Have you heard of the "No Poo" method before? well it's basically when you don't use the typical shampoo but instead use an alternative like baking soda or even just plain water. A lot of people have been making the change to the no poo method and been having amazing results. This isn't something I have stuck to for a long period of time but I did try it and noticed my hair felt fuller which was amazing. I recommend checking out this website:

There you have it, 5  tips to help you on your way to happy hair!!


Wednesday, 10 August 2016

Motivational Notes

When Claire said she was in need of a little break and was looking to have a few guest bloggers to bridge the gap, I was happy to be there to support her. Her blog is fantastic for a start, but I also know that sometimes life gets on top of us and we need a break. So this is why I’m here today. 

Everyone in the world has a bad day. Even the people you think are always happy, high-spirited and jolly. Sometimes, you just can’t help the way you’re feeling. That’s not bad by the way, that’s what makes you and I human! 

When we are having a bad day, we struggle to see what it is that makes us happy. Sometimes we need that reminder of the things we are thankful for or even the view to the bigger picture. Whenever I feel like the pressure is getting to me, I look to the things which make me happy. I did a blog post on the 25 Things That Make Me Happy, so this helps me reflect on all the positives I have surrounding me. 

One thing I love to have surrounding me are the Paperchase postcards that you can pick up for 80p. They are usually located at the front of the store and I never see them getting the attention they deserve, as they can be a great way to show someone you are thinking of them or act as a reminder that things will get better. 

Sometimes, you need a small visual placed in front of you to act as your personal encouragement and motivation to keep you strong. Whether they are on your desk at work, in your diary, on your bedroom wall or to pass on to a friend who you are thinking about.

Here are the 5 Paperchase motivational cards which I think everyone should own:






These are just a few of my favourite Paperchase motivational postcards. Do you have any? Please let me know. 

Thank you to Claire for allowing this guest blog experience, and hopefully Claire will be back very soon to carry on with her beautiful blog. Wishing you all the best xx 

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Wednesday, 3 August 2016

Taking A Break From Blogging?

A couple of months a go I wrote a blog post trying to explain how I was feeling but I ended up deleting it because it was all over the place probably a bit like how this blog post is going to be too, this is me trying a second time, apologies if this makes no sense but you'll soon come to understand why. 

I've always been that girl that's had shit confidence and no self-esteem I'm always like shoved into a corner where people forget about me at least that's how I feel. I've always disliked my self, my weight, looks and sometimes my personality. I've never felt good enough for anyone or anything, I've once been told I deserve everything I get but in a negative way not a complimentary way. Ever since then it's stuck into my head. I've gone through stages were I've self harmed in my teenage years because someone's knocked me down or in past relationships I've been left feeling so worthless and alien like due to all the nasty comments being thrown my way, I guess I kind of felt like well if you don't value me why should I value myself?. But that's not the case this time, yeah sometimes I have that little voice niggling in the back of my head telling me to do it, it'll be a good way to get your anger out. But no. this time I don't want to hurt myself, all I want to do is be happy and that's not going to make me any happier now is it? 

Since well before Christmas (I can't pin point the specific month) but I just became so unhappy in my work place because I'm just constantly surrounded by nasty negative people that have nothing else to do besides make other people unhappy. I'm constantly taken advantage of and spoken too like shit, I have been so strong my entire life but now I just can't take it any more. Why is it people treat me like shit when all I ever am is nice. If I act in a horrible way it's because you've pushed me too far. If you treat me with respect then I'll treat you with respect. I'm not made of glass in fact you could say I am because even glass breaks at some point if it's continuously knocked. I've finally plucked up the courage to go and speak to someone about how I feel, and I'm absolutely dreading it, it's genuinely my worse nightmare, I've been before but I've always be forced a way and they've never taken me seriously so again I'm left feeling like nothings wrong and "I'm over reacting" or whatever, I've just felt unimportant basically. 

It's taken me some time to come to a decision but it's actually been an easy one. I've decided I'm going to take a break from blogging. Yes I know it's such an inconvenient time considering I've not been blogging that long you're probably thinking "already? she can't be feeling the pressure yet" But in fact I am and I don't deal with pressure very well and it's seriously not making me feel any better right now. I just need some time, I don't know how much time, to have a more clear and healthier state of mind and relax. The only problem is, I don't want my blog to go totally quiet because I've put in so much effort already and I'd really like to keep my loyal readers. 

So If you're interested in doing a guest post on my blog please email me: and we can discuss it and your ideas, you'd be helping me out a massive amount and I'll really appreciate it! 

I hope you all understand, and I'm very sorry if you feel I've let you down x
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